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Shereen Ann Leyden

“Be TRUE! Be YOU! Live LIFE!”

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It is never to late to be who you are meant to be. I truly believe during this one life every person is meant for a reason. I feel it is very important to accept yourself, all your imperfections, and tackle who you want to be. Do not let your past, people or society stop you from being you. Your words and actions should align with one another. It is tackling the things you don’t want to tackle but you know you need to tackle. It is you working to be “better me”, every day forward!

In my opinion I feel it takes seeing, realizing, opening up and acceptance to want to change to be better! It means tackling what you don’t want to tackle. It is being able to see yourself for who you don’t want to be and who you know you can be. It’s owning yourself and letting go. It is forgiving yourself first. Then it is tackling everyone else that holds heavy in your heart. You have to come to peace with what is damaging and defining you. You have to have peace from what is destroying you from you being you. No one ever says life is easy. We as society look at others lives and wish, try to out do, compare, at times harm, create chaos and creates jealousy.

But what if what you wish, is right in front of you and your just blinded at the moment? Is it time to open your eyes and start attacking, “YOU”? To accept self and all imperfections? Everything about, YOU, makes you, YOU. Why would you want to be anyone else? Be who you are meant to be! Who you want to be! Come join me on trying to figure out how to tackle this one amazingly hard life.

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Acceptance

Acceptance: Action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered… Action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group…. The quality or state of being….. Approval… Merrimack-Webster, Oxford Language

Do you Accept or Judge self? Why? How does this make you feel? Are you hard or easy on self? Why? Do you tear self down or lift self up? Why? Are you happy, satisfied with self? Or are you disgusted, tear apart self creating destruction? How do you hide true self so the world doesn’t truly see you? Your imperfections, your scars, your marks, genes, your past, failures, fears, your struggles, your true self? Truly think about this! …..……….

Do others Accept or Judge you? Why? How does this make you feel? How are you judged by others? Why? What is accepted of you by others? Why? Why do you feel your being judged? Why do you feel your accepted? How do you respond to judgements? Why? How do you respond to acceptance? Why? Why does the judgement or acceptance of others matter?

How close are the answers from how you treat self to how others treat you? How different are the answers? Why are they different? Why are they the same? What should change? What should grow? Do you judge self and expect others not to judge you? Fix it! Do you judge others and realized you just judged yourself too? Fix it! Do others accept you as you but you don’t ? Change it, fix it, be better then the self sabotage, self lies, self destruction!

Fix yourself first. You can not fix or change anyone but yourself first. The great thing about self growth, self change, and squashing the self sabotage everything around you just falls into place. You realize what is important and what is not important. I feel we fall into a trap with self because we want to be one way but our actions go the other way. We want to be healthy but we continue to feed the body with foods that are harmful to our health. We continue to pick the lazy, comfortable route to self destruction instead of the hard and uncomfortable route to self growth. You might look at yourself and ridicule self to believing the lies. You might have learned to talk yourself out of moving forward continuously. You have fallen into the routine of justify your fears, your self destruction, creating self lies and a pro at excuses. Your eyes need open to see self for self. So you will be able to squash the self sabotage, self destruction, self hate and learn the importance of self growth, self love, self respect no matter what your journey looks like. What works for me or others will not necessarily work for you. But what will look the same is working towards self change, moving forward, and the transformation of better self!

Acceptance of self leads to acceptance by others. Once you realize your worth. When you realize and understand you can’t change the past and no control of the future. You let go and start to tackle yourself working towards the direction you dream, hope, and wish for (better you). Change occurs. your actions and words start to align! You love self for self and those round you will love you for you. You will stop the self lies, self sabotage, self destruction and you will find your self free from excuses, blaming, judging, and control. You grow and those around you will grow and it will push you to grow. You accept self for self and every day you work to be better. Those around you will do the same. Before you realize all the tiny steps, the baby steps, the big steps you took towards better self all added up to true self transformation of accepting self for self! Accept self NOW!

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Past to Present: Lies to Truth: Exist to Growth

Crazy how one life event can open so much. To a point of reviling other peoples skeletons. Those skeletons then attack another innocent person and their life. During this time, creating little tiny beans that grew up and knew to be better then the past environment. It is very sad, pathetic, and fearful of what each generation brings to the next generation. It actually is quit sad that the authorities (parents, family member, boss, spouse, etc..) and take advantage of their authority. It is also quit mind boggling to think one has that much power of authority. It breaks my heart that weakness was stronger then doing right. What keeps a person closed minded to the truth? How and what continues to lurk inside these people to continue to violate others? Then turn around and justify their action. To justify their action to the point if not strong it will destroy that person.

Do we excuse past behavior to keep it silent? Is it silent because it has not resurfaced yet? Does it mean different generations it’s justifiable? Does it mean Different titles its justifiable? Does it mean excuses and blaming is tolerated to rid your horrible choice on another person who is at no fault? Do you justify and truly believe your validation to rid you of your choice so you do not have to take responsibility?

Taking responsibility for yourself, your actions, your choices, your words, your behavior leads to life of freedom and peace. Taking ownership of self frees you from what holds you back. You can’t change the past. You can’t control anyone but yourself. You can only move forward and better yourself. Your actions, choices, behavior effect those around you. What kind role model are you? What kind of sample are you setting? What kind of effect is your presence? Are you the continuous problem? Why is it so hard to take responsibility for self?

How do you forgive those you love, those you trust, those you respected, strangers, friends, family, choices, decisions, behaviors, actions, words, reactions and the truth? How do you let go of the suffering, the unknown, the pain, the behavior, the fear? How do you grow and move forward from the environment one has known their entire life? What does it take to be better then your past, your destruction, your self pity, your self excuses, your self titles?

What in your life is stopping you from moving forward? You have this one life. Do you choose destruction or growth? But I hope you choose Growth for the importance of your one life. Moving forward is doing something for your self each day. Rather it is getting out of bed the first day, eating a salad, cleaning your house, walk, making it on time for appointment or work, reading, researching, saying no, tackling your self that is steps forward no matter what the step is. We tend to forget we all live a different life. We follow and not lead. Why live someone’s else’s life when you have your life right in front of you. It’s your creation, your life, you and only you create your life but all I can say you have to work for life you want unless you are that fortunate one who gets it handed. Biggest advise I pass to you is give your negativity, your past, and your future barely to no time (thoughts, in your head) and let it go. Be in the NOW! Give your time to being present and tackling moving forward.

To give advice is easy but doing the work is hard. I write about myself and pushing to be better. What helps me to be better, to move forward. Life is hard and truly we are alone. I will continue to write about myself to help myself grow. To help others realize their worth and we all have a story. Some are plain Jane and others or wild, crazy, and unfortunate. Thank you for taking your time to read. Shereen Leyden

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Unknown* Life* Choice* Forward* Ownership

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So much in our life is unknown. When a tomorrow arrives we just carry on our very way just assuming tomorrow will be just like yesterday. But what happens when tomorrow brings so much change in one day that it changes the entire dynamics in your life. We are not guaranteed a safe, comforting, easy, it doesn’t apply to me, I’m an acceptation to the rules kind of life. We are guaranteed that we have to fight continuously of who self wants to be and attack life to its fullest. To take ownership and be grateful for life. Needless to say you have to fight with all your strength, might, and soul when life hits you hard. You have to give it your all even when your ready to crumble. You have to continuously try, listen and accept. So much of life is unknown so live life! Try! Go! Move!

It is so important, I can not stress this enough to take care of yourself now before you can not. To take the steps so life is not harder the older one gets. You need To Attack the life you want before it becomes “I wish”. You are capable of fighting for yourself. You are stronger then you think, to attack what needs to be done to be YOU. Know your worth because you are worthy of this one life the way you want to be seen, loved, and defined. Move now because you can. Try now because you can. Start now because you can. Conquer your fear because you are worth it. Don’t repeat what makes you who you don’t want to be. Repeat what makes you who you want to be. Stop repeating your failures, grab the tools that worked and go a different path/direction/journey. Start! Be who you are meant to be! Attack and conquer the warrior in you!

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It is time to make the most of life even with the simple things. Cherish the things you take for granite before its not available or around. Listen with your heart and learn from the simple words. Slow down and do not miss out on what is right in front of you. Capture the moments because you will cherish the memories.

Remember, listen, BELIEVE, and repeat: I am ENOUGH! I am SMART! I am CAPABLE! I am WORTHY! I am IMPORTANT! I am BEAUTIFUL! I am STRONG! I am LOVABLE! I am COURAGEOUS! I am BRAVE! I am PROUD! I am ME! I will stop the self sabotage and realize I am enough for this one life. I will stop the self lies and I will believe in myself. I am capable to accomplish my fears. That I will be stronger at my most weakest moments. I realize I am lovable for this one life the way I want to be loved. I am beyond thankful I have the ability to see who I don’t want to be and who I want to be. I will accept my imperfections. My imperfections make me, ME and there is only one me. I will embrace myself for who I am. I am Me. I am Proud of ME! I am BEAUTIFUL!

Start! Try! Restart! Just start and attack who you want to be. You will find your super power within you, if you attack who you want to be and know you can be “better me”. You are meant for this one life. Be true! Be YOU! Please subscribe below for all my new publishings!

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