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Better self, Motivation, Inspiration, Mindset

Is life easy? Is life hard? What does your life look like? Are you satisfied with you? Are you better because what is around you? Are you growing and becoming who you truly want to be? What has you thinking life is just life, it is what it is, I can’t, it’s impossible, to hard, I tried….. and it just keeps going? STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP

Life is hard and life is easy! I feel you don’t have a choice but you make the choice how you react, interact, and act in your life. I truly feel you have to see who you are and truly accept yourself and if you can not you have to change to become who you want to be and take responsibility. What ever has you thinking that you can’t well you CAN. What ever has you believing that it is hard, well I’m sorry to say this but it probably is hard or will be hard but maybe not as hard as you think. Why I say this, is because I feel “EASY” makes progress “YES” but it’s probably something you/we continue to do over and over or we/ you are good at doing already. Easy makes me think of safe zone, comfortable zone, or/and zone we conquered already. I feel hard is tackling the things that we use excuses for, the things we complain about, it’s getting outside our comfort zone, I feel it an understanding of getting to know self of who they want to be no matter what comes along.

Stop believing who you are not. Because that truly is getting in your way of who you are. It is getting in the way of who you are “MEANT TO BE” in this one life. You have this one life for a reason so “STOP” sabotaging yourself towards who you don’t want to be. Be better then your enemy. Be better then the self lies. Understand you are enough. But “YES” there is a but, “YOU” have to realize who you don’t want to be so you are capable of becoming who you are meant to be.

Who are you meant to be? What is your “WHY”? Can you answer these two questions?

What self sabotage have you done to yourself? Truly think about how you truly see yourself; the thoughts only you think to yourself, the thoughts of I’m not “important”, I’m not “strong”, I’m not “capable”, I’m not “smart”, I’m not “beautiful”, I’m not “brave”, I’m not “confident”, I’m not “enough”….. It just can keep going. You are not alone thinking these thoughts about yourself. It is not okay to think these thoughts because they are lies we tell are self. You have to stop believing the lies we continue to tell are self every time we make a “BAD CHOICE”, only in your eyes. What is a bad choice? For me a bad choice is being snappy, not being present, wanting control, targeting to much at once, unhealthy eating choices, posture (SIT UP! STAND UP TALL! It is so important. My grandpa and posture; growing up I never knew why he would always tell me, “SIT UP!” Blah, blah blah blah I heard at first. The older I became I heard “Sit up. The older I get blah, blah, blah I heard this. Then I heard this “Sit up because when you get older you don’t want to be hatchback. SIT UP! And now when we visit I don’’t hear that anymore but every time I “SIT UP!”, I think of my Grandpa Hironaka! My Gechan!.), and so many other bad choice.

We have to own ourself so we can become are self. Who cares about our imperfections because those imperfections are “YOU”! We see what others don’t see so stop your self sabotage, self destruction, self lies. Even if they see what you see it is not what they define you with. Remember there is always exception to anything I say because there is always that ONE PERSON. But if they define you by your insecurities, your imperfections think twice who that person truly is, who you want to be, do they make you grow or hold you back, is it based on truth or lies. Remember you are who you want to become. So start becoming who you are meant to be. Just be true and be “YOU”, a better me.

I am open for communication and sharing my tools that has helped me realize who I am meant to be. Being snappy is not who I want to be defined as (very hard one to crack) work in progress…….. But I am proud that I can at least see it, notice it, try to not act, and be called out on it. Being called out on something that I don’t want defining me is like a missile 3,2,1.. OFF my mouth goes but that is in my head and I breath and try my best to accept it because “YOU ARE RIGHT!” I should not be snappy I tell myself when I have to tell me children one hundred times to put their coat up, toys up (not just tossed in their room either), boots out of others walking way, back pack on the hook, garbage in garbage, yes to one snack not after 3 snacks then asking continuously because they are so hungry. Then you prepare them a meal. They don’t eat hardly any dinner. All the sudden they are full! But then here is the kicker they ask for a snack minutes later. Little Miss Eva realized the day she should probably eat her meals because waiting for the next meal can get hungry for child who can have no snacks until next meal.. Trying not to be snappy is work in progress.

Remember you are worth your worth! You are meant for this life! You are capable of attacking who you do not want to be! You are strong enough to tackle who you want to be! You are brave enough to beat fear because you are meant for this one life. Read to yourself until you believe in yourself. I am Strong! I am Important! I am Enough! I am Brave! I am capable! I am Courage! I am Worthy! I am beautiful! I am Confident, I am Kind, I am smart, I am ME! It is not about I used to, I should have, I once was able to, I am just….. It is about working harder and accepting yourself without excuses(fine line), complaining (fine line), age (fine line but no matter the age if you see a 90 year old person who still has their memory, health, fitness, self care, driving and you say I hope that is ME. That can be YOU! But he would say you have to take care of “YOU”. Thank you grandpa ( “great Gechan” my children. Growing up for 40 years it is “grandpa for me, now (but…) and “Gechan for my children”. I, we love you! )

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FEAR! RUN AWAY OR FACE STRAIGHT ON?

Beat Fear. when possible take a time out to clear the flooded mind. Breath when you feel your in a panic. Face fear straight on. Remember It could always be worse. Talk about it. Don’t try to be perfect. beat fear. Don’t fear failure, Don’t fear uncertainty, Don’t fear loneliness, Don’t fear change, Don’t fear being judged, Don’t fear loss of freedom, Don’t fear getting hurt, Don’t fear inadequacy, Don’t fear rejection, Don’t fear love, Don’t fear criticism, Don’t fear death, Don’t fear loss, Don’t fear, FEAR! BEAT FEAR! Fear protects us from danger, prepares us to take action, but it also destroys us. BE TRUE, BE YOU! SAL

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Remember who you ARE!

Hello warriors! How is life treating you? Are you where you want to be in life? Are you living a wishful life? Do you find yourself comparing your self to others continuously? Is your life in chaos? What you think, you will start to believe, and when you believe it becomes true even when its a lie. Self sabotage exists and it exists in so many. What collars are you ready to throw away?

I am a victim to my own self sabotage, self lies, believing its just existence of life and many masks. I am beyond thankful for my eyes to open and truly see my own worth, value, bravery, strength, courage, and that I am a warrior. My research helped me learn, unlearn, relearn and gave me the tools I needed to tackle who I don’t want to be. The tools to attack my mindset and self care to who I want to be. It Opened my eyes to realize it is my life and I have control of it. I can either fail or succeed. I can tear myself apart or I can mend myself back together and shine. I can stay comfortable or I can get outside my comfort zone. I am learning and tackling each and everyday to unlearn the self destruction, self Sabotage by switching my self talk.

Here is how I used to talk to self or see myself for almost 41 years; I’m fat, I’m ugly, I’m stupid, I’m selfish, I’m not capable, I’m useless, I’m of color, I don’t fit in, I’m not worth ones time, I’m fearful, I’m scared, I’m worthless, I speak funny, fast and have million thoughts at once, growing up trying to hide the wrinkles on my hands, being silent of the fear of how I speak, I’m lazy, I’m mean, I’m unhealthy, I’m old, I’m to young, I don’t have the experience, I’m short, I’m not smart enough, I’m not beautiful, I’m bad person depending on which title, I’m weak, I don’t deserve it, I’m giving up, I’m to late, I freeze when all eyes are on me, I have bad luck, I can’t, I’ll never follow through with it, I’m just disappointment, I must be perfect at it to try, I’m not enough, they are better then me, people won’t like me, it is to hard, I’d rather put you down to make myself feel better, assuming and filling in the blanks, there is always tomorrow, timing isn’t right, self pity, complainer, never done it, use excuses after excuses, flaky, non trustworthy, drama starter, shit talker, gossiper, I’ll only do it one more time, I’m doubtful, they’re better at it then me so why try, I’ll failure so why try, I am a failure, I am my many addictions, I hold grudges, I would target back when hurt, I would hurt out of anger or/and jealousy , it is what it is, no self control, over eater, procrastinator, it’s just life, not in me to be organized, finger pointer, I can’t change, it’s impossible for me, I’ll start tomorrow, and what ever else I forgot I told myself or the way I acted or conducted myself.

JUST WOW! IT’S ALL LIES I’VE TOLD MYSELF. Im glad my eyes were open to how I was treating myself. I’m continuing to learn that this is all bullshit. That I let self sabotaging, self destruction, and self lies run my life for way to long. I continue to squash who I don’t want to be and attack who I want to be. I forgave myself first before others could forgive me, I realize my worth, I know I am brave, I am very capable as long as I start and try. That giving up is not a choice. Knowing I will have set backs, struggles, interference, obstacles, bad choice, and difficulties but not to let it define me. To always look for the good first and not to be blinded to learn life lessons from anyone. That I can learn from my closet friend and my worse enemy. I find it is important to take breaks to just breath. To work as hard as I can to accept self as is but know I am capable of being better. To stop stories at my ears. To squash complaining, excuses, self pity, and self lies. To always learn, and willing to unlearn and relearn. To do my research and always push myself to be better me. To be grateful, thankful and respectful. To listen first and not to give advice when not needed. To not take things personal and never target back out of anger. To always try, start, continue, and restart when needed. That I do not let anyone get in my way of me being truly me. I have set boundaries which some don’t understand and that’s okay. I have also learned that It is okay to let go of those that keep me back and set me back. That it is very important to own myself so I am able to grow to be better me. To give with out expectations, recognition, and/or to receive. To be open minded to anyone that comes my way.

Remember to be true, be you! SAL